Rupture of Couples: Keep in Touch with Your Ex?

Tips to keep going without ties after the breakup of the couple

Overcoming an emotional breakdown is not easy, but there are some keys that can be taken into account in order to make the situation more bearable and ensure you do not obsess about a relationship that is broken.

Tips on the break of a couple 

- If you have made the decision to terminate the relationship, it is
  normal to think about the person who has perhaps been present  
  for several years for a while.  But, you must be strong and
  continue to hold the position for you need to be in a better mood
  and not be sad all the time. Later, this record will pay its benefits.

- You must be rational and think the future holds something better.
   Thinking about someone is not worth wasting your time.

- Do some sports or any activity that distracts the mind, this being
  the best help to avoid thinking about the former couple.

- This is not a good time to be alone. Making plans with friends or relatives is a good alternative
   to clinging to a memory that is no longer valid.

- Restoring your self-esteem is the key to start again in a healthy way. If you cannot overcome this time
  alone, seek professional assistance or attend self-help groups where people with similar problems can give
  their testimony and help you feel understood and guided.

- You must accept the feelings, but without being overwhelmed by them.
   Having a clear head despite the pain
   and frustration a break causes is vital if you want to be focused and to achieve recovery.

- Feeling guilty about what went wrong will not leave the memory of the former behind.

- Try to rethink what your priorities are. If you are not satisfied with your work, with certain attitudes, with
   your personality or your physical behavior, this is a good time to try to change and innovate something. All
   this will be positive and help you restore the self-esteem you have lost.

Many relationships are complex. “There are times when bonding is great, but the two partners know that the relationship no longer works. They decide to go on, but they then realize that things do not work once again. This recidivism sometimes leads to results because there is love and each plays their part to make things better, but unfortunately, this is not what happens in most cases. Second chances are not always beneficial and failing again erodes the self-esteem of both much more. Be very careful and think of why you have decided to separate and stick to your idea, although it is painful and difficult, but do it for the sake of the future of both,” says the Uruguayan psychologist Mayte Formoso.

Separated Woman Seeking a Seductive Ex

Ending a relationship can make a woman free and in turn, she becomes a fiercely irresistible?

Ex-wife and "man-eater"

Any separation creates a crisis, but the change can be liberating for the women and they can go through an amazing transformation. Encouraging the change and rebuilding the lost self-esteem seem to be the most effective tools of seduction. The return to the erotic life (among many returns) is the one which stimulates the couples to decide to part ways, which is not something to fear.

Currently, more women choose to have a second or a third chance to surprise their environment and themselves with their courage, which is hidden deep inside the female.

“A woman who has already separated once or more times knows exactly what she wants from her life or, better yet, she knows exactly what she does not want. If she has a companion with whom she is sexually unsatisfied, she just tries to get her satisfaction and therefore, she educates the man from the sexual point of view. At first, the fear of him repeating what he has done is enormous painful, but it is an exercise that teaches the woman to work on her self-esteem”, says sexologist Patricia Dappitt from Argentina.

The conquest is not easy. “There is a wolf hiding and waiting for the opportune moment to strike inside every woman. The woman who has lived for many years marked by a bad experience will need to leave the arena at some point in her life, showing her claws in a good way and seducing her man. She can begin a new life full of achievements and discoveries,” says the Spanish sexologist Javier López Severino, who has lectured on women's sexual behavior when left alone and on ways to reverse an unsatisfying sexual life.

The specialist is writing a book on the sexual stages that a woman experiences and the changes that consolidate and transform her over time. The first clue is perceived when there is a desire to change any physical aspect, which is not comfortable. The important thing is not to stay at that level and continue investigating other ways of improvement.

The reconstruction of the self is one of the fundamental conditions for revival. There is nothing more seductive than a woman who loves and respects herself and when this state is achieved, the successful transformation is amazing because it is a full revival and it is reflected”, indicates Dappitt.

Separated woman looking for sex...

The sexual life is usually another factor that begins to take shape differently in the female world after a separation. However, we must bear in mind that not everything changes overnight.

“There is a belief that a person who returns to being alone has endless possibilities to exercise their sexuality, but this is not absolutely accurate. Nor is it true that independence will magically give the person the power to pursue Hollywood.

Surely, the first opportunity to have a sexual encounter after long years of living with another partner is not very positive, the woman has no orgasm and the man has no erection and that has nothing to do with seduction as it modifies and is rediscovered all the time”, says López Severino.

Sex after a withdrawal will depend on how the sexuality was during that past relationship.

“If the link was very satisfactory, finding another matching partner will be a complex process and this relates to the degree of trust and intimacy that was built up during the years of coexistence and to the understanding between the two”, says Dappitt.

If you have had more choice but to go separate ways, the marital past should serve to enrich each individual. If life together turned out to be poor, it is possible to find sexual enjoyment in many places, trying to find another experience.

Times have changed especially for women, who no longer get bored living with a husband who does not bring pleasure to their daily life.

Secrets of seduction of separated women

- Decorate the venue attractively;
- Maintain a pleasant and intelligent conversation that arouses mutual attraction;
- The image must be kept personal, but natural and not exaggerated. Wanting to please too much can be
  counterproductive; and
- Massage helps with creating a suitable climate. Feeling relaxed, confident and eroticized will help.