Plan Your Holiday With Your Partner

The holidays are not here yet, and they are already causing us concern. Here are some strategies to help you plan a vacation as a couple, without the hassle.

You do not agree on the destination

You are not dreaming of palm trees and the sand and he only thinks about climbing Mount Everest ... almost. It starts badly! But instead of stoically maintaining your positions, learn to make compromise. Imposing your choices will lead nowhere. If things go wrong, you'll feel guilty and stressed out and your vacations will be damned.

Listening, creativity and flexibility are a must to solve what appears to be an impasse at first sight. At first, explain your needs and then listen to his motives. Understanding your partner’s perspective often helps you realize that your needs and are not necessarily incompatible. Instead, it opens new avenues. For example, several destinations can combine swimming and climbing. Just get informed.

Another approach to find common ground: take notes of the advantages and disadvantages with each suggestion. Then, set the suggestions together. You just have to scratch the choices that are too distant and discuss only those that would apply to both. Tip: gather some documentation about the destinations you seek. It will be easier for you to convince the other.

Your spouse wants to leave alone... with a couple friends

Two scenarios are possible: he wants to go with you or ... without you! If he wants to go alone with you, some explanation is required. There may be a problem and it must be addressed. Also, you must accept that you have different interests and, more importantly, your Julius can take pleasure in doing things with other people than you.

The advantage of the situation is that it allows you to make your side trips that are important to you. More importantly, it can possibly enrich the couple, increasing commitment and foster reconciliation. Imagine all the adventures to tell after the holidays! Naturally, this requires great trust in your relationship. Otherwise, you may experience a feeling of abandonment that only goes away in time. If you do not feel comfortable with this choice, say so and find an alternative.

Your spouse wants a couple of friends with you

He wants to ask a couple of friends to join you. If you cannot stand this couple for more than six hours, think twice before accepting. A good shouting match before leaving is better than two weeks of hell. Set the record straight from the start by simply telling the other couple, "We're leaving together, but we are not obliged to follow each other step-by-step. We want to have intimate moments and do some activities alone. "Express your expectations without remorse, even if they feel offended.

The idea does not displease you, but do you know a little about the couple in question? Try the experience of living together for a weekend just to see, before making a decision of extensive time.

The couple who accompanies you yell at each other all the time

Holidays are too valuable to waste with the childishness. So, there is no question of acting as if nothing happened. Tell that to the couples whose disputes annoy you. Explain how you feel when you witness such disputes. If nothing changes, keep your distance by doing activities on your own. Do not attempt to play the role of the mediator (because of your profession) if you don’t know exactly how to do it. Otherwise, you may be caught in the middle. Each spouse wants you to witness or try being in their shoes. Ultimately, both are likely to blame you. Forget it!

Did you know?

To make your holiday as enjoyable as the members of a couple are one for the other, choose to alternate the vacation destination. This year, you might go in the mountains and next year at the seaside and meantime, select a four-star hotel!