How to Recover After a Divorce

Recovering after a divorce is a long, bumpy process, so here is some divorce advice for men and women on the different phases one goes through.  Reviewing the list, you can see where you stand.

The different phases of reconstruction 

1 - The phase of depression: 

This is the first step, the more painful thing is to get over the grief, the pain of loss, loneliness, attention and criticism of children. Stand firm and do not stay alone, call your friends to the rescue.

To not renew the wound, make a physical and mental break with your ex, no phone calls, no meetings. It is very important to be able to recover and restore.

2 - The acceptance phase: 

Accepting is integrating your history.  It is not being angry and resentful or feeling guilty, nor is it not having regrets or feeling remorse. It is difficult, but it is not impossible! However, it takes time.  It's like a deep wound healing.  It is a genuine process of grieving for the former couple's relationship is similar to a psychic work of integration and regeneration.

3 - The phase "I assume I’ll get over": 

It is important to make an honest appraisal of your mistakes and of what went wrong in the relationship, not just blame the former partner!

The relationship has two ends as everyone has their share of responsibilities. Think of what attitudes were negative or toxic to the relationship. This will help you set new foundations and will prevent you from falling into the same traps.

4 - The phase of fear:

There can be a quite normal period of fear after a phase of well-being, in which you have overcome the legal and administrative challenges of divorce. The first and most ancient is the fear of the unknown. It is legitimate because not knowing what awaits us proves that we change our habits, we change our lives and that we do not control our future. You should take small steps and not get too upset, so take it easy.

The fear of living alone is the most classic. We hate returning to ourselves, our choices and our loneliness. Being a good companion for yourself teaches you to be stronger and to have more autonomy.

5 - The regeneration phase: 

This is the phase of rebirth, you find happiness in your ability, your ability to savor the small joys of the moment, you are finally positive!

Regardless of the divorce advice for women and men, the solutions are within us  We are our own healers, but sometimes we need help to rekindle the spark of life we need in order to survive.