In our time, the experience of abandonment or someone leaving is everywhere. The media reports about failed relationships of celebrities almost daily and the situation occurs even more frequently in real life because the partners no longer meet the rapidly spiraling upwards, medially oriented ideals. Where love does not have the time to develop, it dies and those who keep their lives for a movie have no chance.
The partner or the partners have made it final
Being abandoned is not the same as leaving someone. Still, one is more painful than the other. Yes, it can hurt terribly and we know you can feel the pain, especially when you are being abandoned. Nevertheless, love strikes in the most unexpected moments and it can take all the previous pain away. When the great feeling of love disappears and a piece is replaced by much confidence, which in everyday social life is really normal, that may already be the occasion to end the relationship. Even if there are children involved. Couples split up because of the reduced financial dependence of women, which is a novelty.
Recover or give up?
The woman is gone! The man is gone! Now, what is reasonable? You either want to win back the loved one or abandon this situation and move on to a new partner. There are no general answers to these questions. You can choose to fight or to regroup. However, you should know a few psychological principles. People in such emotional situations, which cause injuries in every case, hardly assess their chances of success correctly. They tend to idolize people who are cold. These appear more desirable and they are less achievable. Do the tests. Not winning back the partner decreases the levels of dopamine and the person gets mild depression every second. If people are not capable of love, their grief stops them from thinking clearly and, therefore, they need good advice from the outside.
So what to do specifically?
Now, sorrow is always the price that must be paid when it comes to separation from the ex-partner as well as to abandonment. Those who left are just one step further than those who have been abandoned. It may be that both partners come together again and some couples can even get married and divorced after some time. However, this can therefore be problematic from a psychological point of view because their confidence has been massively destroyed and not just temporarily as this is usually a prolonged process. This fact will always remain in the consciousness. Trust can be gone within a second, but it can only be built up again relatively slowly.
Those who want to get out of a relationship usually have very important personal reasons to do so. Sometimes, dealing with these reasons means working on the self. There are usually two phases of protest and resignation and the third phase is that of reorientation. "Basically", says social philosopher Hans-Jo by Kolberg, "the thing is not with the feelings of those who fight and that are clearly to be blamed for the separation, but of those who run after another and who are often left empty-handed.
The force to find a new beginning and to free themselves from an exaggerated situation, often imagined as one partner’s function, often appears to be the better alternative. "
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