Reconstruction: A Few Tips That Have Proven Useful

The break is when you approach a new phase of your life, but you do not mean a new wife!, Here are some useful recipes to help you get back on your feet and more!

1 - Externalize your emotions:

Our emotions are the vectors of our energies, as we keep them within ourselves. We are pumping them for energy, so it is better to express and channel them constructively! You're a kind of volcano, your anger builds up and explodes unexpectedly, so try exercising such as:  boxing, tennis, karate, jogging, rocking or walking! If you are nervous, stressed, anxious, choose yoga, relaxation therapy, the soft gym, aqua aerobics, cycling and breathe in order to remove your fears! If you're tired, powerless, choose walking, refreshing massages, laughter clubs!

2 - Share with others:

In these difficult times, it is important not to be alone with your suffering. Join a group of words, divorced women, share with others, get away from your solitude - a key to your aid and reconstruction.

3 - Choose your friends and relations:

Ability to identify people who wish you well and with whom you are really good friends is crucial in a period of fragility. Avoid guilt-girlfriends or mothers under the guise of open your eyes and choose those who prefer to listen to you, support you and you will get a good image of yourself again!

4 - Have fun:

If you've always dreamed of going skydiving, of writing, of making songs or painting: invest time in a new activity that attracts you and that makes you happy. This will revitalize you and give you oxygen in your life.

5 - Focus on the present moment:

Do not project yourself too far into the future because it is useless. You might miss the present moment and envision a lot of things that will never come true. Learning to enjoy the small pleasures of everyday life is a source of healing and reconstruction.

6 – Think positive:

Make a conscious choice and choose not to be infected with negative thoughts because these dark thoughts will get you tired and will demoralize you. Instead, try to visualize what is beautiful, what is good in your life and return to it whenever necessary. This attitude is a struggle, but you should be able to win!

7 - Take yourself in hand!

Your self-image has been shattered! To regain your confidence and your ability to attract others, change something about your look: hair, clothing, style, and create a new image!

Be patient with yourself. It is the little streams that make big rivers... .

Is Infidelity a Cause of Divorce?

Here is a useful situation that you might identify yourself with:

"Hello, I'm 38, I have been married for 12 years, I have 3 children, a 10, an 8 and a 7-year-old. I just discovered that my husband was unfaithful to me, I told him about it and he has said that it was the first time, that this woman did not matter to him, that he cracked, he also told me that I am the only woman he loves and that he cannot imagine his life without me. I do not know how to react, I still love my husband, but I no longer trust him, I feel betrayed, I think about her all the time and I wonder if she was older than me. Do you think we can forget and still have a fulfilling life together? Is forgiveness possible? Can an infidel husband return to being a faithful one or should you move on to getting divorce advice for men and women both?"

Christina Lion

Dear Christina,

You discovered that your husband was unfaithful, it's a shock, but you could talk to him. You explained that this woman hit on him, but that "he loves you and that he cannot envisage life without you."

The problem is as follows: Your husband still loves you, but will you have the strength and will to overcome this betrayal despite your suffering? You must decide if you want to forgive him and preserve your marriage and your children or if you want to separate. Yes, you can forgive your husband, especially since it was just a fad, but he must give you back proof of love and regain your confidence. Moreover, it would be good for your relationship and yourself to go see a marriage counselor, to find the reason for his "cracking", to find what in your domestic relationship may have favored his vulnerability? There is no trick to forget, thus, free yourself from all the negative, but normal feelings, such as grief, anger, resentment may be critical for the balance and future of your relationship.

Infidelity - is it chronic? This depends greatly on your marital relationship and your husband’s personality. There are no rules, but experience shows that couples who have overcome such crises had the common desire to start on solid foundations in couples therapy and not all have been forced to seek legal divorce advice or divorce advice of any kind. Possibly, many couples have gone through it and live happily together.

Returning With a Ghost

It is said that when a woman leaves a man, she never wants to return, while the boyfriends and husbands that she left on the road, are always swarming around her and appear in the most unexpected situations...

We all know more than one lady who came back with her ex because she still loved him or because she was very afraid of solitude or because the guy in question enjoyed an interesting heritage unlikely to be given up on so easily.

And there must be a thousand reasons more because you cannot generalize the parameters when it comes to women.

Each person has a different concept regarding this situation, a concept which can be deduced after about twenty minutes of conversation on the topic. So, there is The Woman and the universal significance, but when we speak of the human male in general terms, we say without hesitation: the Man.

The Homo Sapiens, is then a symbolic animal, more than expected, and what he says works for everyone. Well, men can be so heavy and hang around, they can cheat and switch to another woman.

This happens because we may not be direct relatives of the monkey, but of the dog and we like hanging around all the brides that we have had from the past and until now.

Another reason could be that some types suffer from purely ideal reminiscences, in which the image of the former is presented in the memory, but it is not real. It is also worth pointing out that men suffer from an unavoidable compulsion to repeat things and something is said to run into the same stone a thousand times.

But if having a trail of single young ladies ranging from 18 to 69 years old, and a wistful wish to continue drinking the soup, it is due to something deeper though not at all original. Men are not like bunnies carrying their carrot around. That is just the appearance.

But what really drives us is the gap behind, that belongs to a preliminary time and we feel lost in the feeling of fullness, in the whole universe and there is a primal pleasure to give up that we have when we put the first diaper.

Since then, the whistle carriers are like the old TVs in the 50's: we operate but with ghosts.

With a ghost, especially one who claims this world is free from will, that sentimental matrix is impossible.

However, as the ghost insists, as we posed on the faces of those girls who will be better illusion.

And then, why not return to the former that is accepting the spell? Otherwise, it would grow, evolve and continue eating pies.