Is Revenge the Only Way?

Eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth? Revenge leads to revenge and this is an endless spiral. You have to become the master of your reactions.

Getting revenge for a small insult will make you suffer even more. Those who spend their time looking for revenge do not do anything for themselves. But what happens next? Stick to protecting yourself and to making sure that no one can do you any harm. Any vengeance on your part will strengthen your attacker and make them more successful and will damage your prestige among the others. Any revenge diverts you from your goals, you will always be angry, you will lose your coolness and you will make irreparable mistakes. In urging you to get revenge, people take you wherever they want. By seeking vengeance, you are no better than your attacker.

Revenge is the last resort of the weak. Those who know nothing, do not see it coming because they cannot. They may be attacked and the attack may fail, leading the attacker to find a better way to hurt the person in question. The failure of revenge is inevitable because it is impossible to go back in time. Those who avenge themselves suffer because they do not accept the reality.

Revenge is hell, rage, anger, and fury. Yet, who would avenge the collapse of the roof, the leaking pipe, the rock they stunble upon? What we do is learn to strengthen the roof, to clean the pipes, and watch out we walk. We need to know the world in order to protect ourselves against its dangers. This is an act of wisdom.

It is the same with the people we meet. We must know their nature in order to protect ourselves from their revenge, which is far from giving a lesson to another. In fact, vengeance only adds more damage to the harm done. It will generate even more resentment and thus, the person will be more willing to harm you. As for our eventual position of strength that would justify our action, remember that what goes around turns around and powerful allies can turn against you and crush you. Revenge may not always be successful and this frustration can sometimes result in violence.

If you learn that someone wants to harm you, take the front, hide your projects, and schedule backup solutions. In short, counter their bad action. Reverse their attempt. When one has pulled it off, it is too late to ask for revenge. There is more to stand up  for.  Let them continue their journey.